During COVID-19, Strength is Knowing that its Okay Not to be Okay

By: Khadijah Abdullah, Founder & Executive Director, Reaching All HIV+ Muslims in America

In May, my Uncle passed away from COVID-19. Grief hit our family hard, especially his youngest daughter, my cousin Erica. She had just lost her older brother to a heart attack a year prior. She felt the weight of their deaths on her shoulders. 

Unfortunately just a couple weeks ago, on October 9th she unexpectedly passed away as well. She leaves behind a 4 year old son who is a cancer survivor and requires special care. As you can imagine my family is devastated. 

Grief hits differently when it is someone you love. We never know the day nor the hour, but we know we will all die someday. But when it happens, it still hurts.

When COVID-19 first hit, many of us did not understand its severity until we lost someone close and/or the numbers increased drastically over a short period of time. The news constantly fed us information about COVID-19 and many retreated to their homes and sealed their front doors shut.

But what about Black, Brown and Indigenous people?

We are hit the hardest by COVID-19.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), factors that contribute to risk of us getting sick with COVID-19 are: discrimination, healthcare access and utlization, occupation, educational, income, wealth gaps, and housing. 

Many of us do not have the luxury of sheltering in place. If we did, we would not be able to eat or feed our families. We have to keep a roof over our heads. We can’t afford to just simply not work. We don’t have the luxury of wealth. Essential workers often times falls on the backs of Black, Brown and Indigenous Folx.

COVID-19 has had and continues to have an impact on many families across the world, including my own. In the US alone, over 8 million people tested positive for COVID-19 thus far. As the Executive Director of Reaching All HIV+ Muslims In America (RAHMA), I have seen the effects it has on those we serve as well, including our team. Moving to a virtual world without warning has caused Zoom fatigue and attempting to find balance in a constantly changing world. Mental health is of the utmost importance and we just strive to do the best we can. Sometimes this looks like taking time off to regroup and that’s okay. 

Strength is knowing that its okay not to be okay. We are human.

We have also taken a few steps to provide relief and support to Black, Indigenous and People of Color (BIPOC) affected by COVID-19. In recognition of National Faith HIV & AIDS Awareness Day (NFHAAD), we led a town hall titled: “Get out and Vote: HIV & COVID-19 are on the Ballot.” This town hall covered the importance of voting, how our lives depend on it and why we must appoint elected officials who actually value our lives. We invited speakers from the Black AIDS Institute, Positive Women’s Network, Dr. Abdul El-Sayed and more.

Due to my personal experiences with COVID-19 and wanting to help amplify prevention efforts as much as I can, I have also become a Faith Ambassador with the COVID-19 Prevention Network. Our goal is to collaborate with BIPOC faith communities, address the effects COVID-19 has on us, disparities, prevention efforts and how we can respond effectively.  

COVID-19 is not going anywhere anytime soon. This is a harsh reality we have to face. In order for us to come out of this alive, we have to take care of self. COVID-19 is an invisible force to be reckoned with and we have to be equipped with knowledge to defend ourselves. 

Our lives depend on it. 

About Reaching All HIV+ Muslims in America: RAHMA addresses HIV, AIDS, Female Genital Mutilation/Cutting (FGM/C), Sexual Health and Gender-Based Violence (GBV) in faith communities through education, advocacy, and empowerment. Their programs include a retreat for HIV+ Muslims and their allies, sexual health & HIV trainings and development og a virtual FGM/C toolkit for survivors and health care providers, created in collaboration with the George Washington University, Milken School of Public Health hosted at https://fgmtoolkit.gwu.edu. RAHMA is also the founder of National Faith HIV & AIDS Awareness Day, which unites Muslim, Christian, Jewish, Buddhist, Sikh, Hindu and Baha'i faiths to take a stand against stigma in their congregations and raise awareness on HIV and AIDS. Donate to Reaching All HIV+ Muslims in America.

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